According to the experts who study what it takes to become an expert, if you commit to study a subject for one hour a day, you’ll be an “expert” in the field after a few years of work. Malcolm Gladwell said it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert. The reality is somewhere in between.
Most people aren’t going to work that hard, so after a few years of work, you’ll be smarter than most people in any given subject. But if you want to compare yourself to the real experts in any field, well, that will take most of your life.
But what about your spouse? Who’s the expert in your wife? Your husband?
Short answer…you are. With just a little work, a little attention, you can become an expert in your husband and/or wife. Think about it. What if you spent one hour a day studying your spouse? What kinds of things would you find out?
Wives, do you know your husband’s favorite pen? What’s his favorite shirt or suit? His favorite team? An expert would know these things.
Guys, do you know her sizes? What’s her favorite dessert? Her favorite movie? Team? An expert would know these things.
How do you become an expert in your spouse?
The same way you become an expert in anything. You study. You pay attention. You ask questions. You keep notes. You watch for tendencies and habits. You learn to anticipate responses.
One of the overlooked aspects in a Christ-centered marriage is the concept of stewardship.
We are stewards of our spouses. We are tasked to maximize the Master’s investment He has entrusted to us. Therefore, it’s up to us to ensure our spouses become everything God dreamed they would be.
And you can only do that if you become an expert first.
Pay attention. There will be a test.