Ok, let me get this straight. According to USA Today, Valentine’s Day is one of the most active days for websites that encourage and help facilitate extra-marital affairs.
Yep, that’s right.
The article says if your spouse is disappointed with your Valentine’s Day effort, it may be the final straw that sends them looking for excitement and love in someone else.
One of the founders of a website that caters to “discreet” encounters for married people says Valentine’s Day is one of their busiest days of the year.
Are you kidding me?
This is how upside down our world is.
If we can’t do something well (like staying in a committed marriage) we will celebrate our own destruction.
I hate to sound like a typical preacher, but honestly, I have seen too much to just act like this doesn’t matter. It does matter and the destruction done by an affair scars a marriage forever. Sure, there is forgiveness and yes, Jesus is merciful, but His healing will not bring back what was lost. The violated trust will never be as pure or as deep as it originally was. The Bible tells the story of King David’s affair in 2 Samuel 11. You can read it for yourselves and when you do, notice this: David’s kingdom was never the same after the affair. His infidelity had devastating consequences.
And so will yours. If you’re thinking about an affair let me be as honest as I can be. You will bring a hell into your life you will never get over. Sure, Jesus may forgive you, but your children won’t. Your friends won’t know what to say, and neither will you. And as for the self-deception “that no one will ever know…” Right, just remember, everyone has two best friends.
If you are unhappy in your marriage, then do something positive about it.
Get to counseling.
Sit down with your spouse and talk honestly about what’s going on.
Write a letter.
I don’t care how you get started making your marriage better. Just do something positive to get your marriage back on track.
Don’t cross this line of infidelity… it is not worth it.
And as for the folks who run this website… to quote my mother, “They should just be ashamed.”
Marriages are not static. You are either pulling each other closer or the world is pulling you apart.
Do something today to pull your spouse closer.