Now that I’ve been doing what I do for as long as I have, people want to know about things that have surprised me. Well, that’s a hard one because I’m surprised every day by something. Every day I see something I never thought I would see. I’ve seen a human being walk on the moon and then, I watched as we got bored with going to the moon. Think about that. People got bored hearing about people going to the moon. The evening news doesn’t even cover it anymore.
But what has surprised me the most is how big of an impact little things make. Little things left unattended can add up to a big pile of trouble.
Take marriage for instance. Most marriages don’t fail because of an affair or some drastic, unforgiveable act. Most of the time love is frozen under layers and layers of anger that has built up over the years as small things have not been addressed.
A “thank you” goes unspoken, and a wife feels taken for granted.
An “I’m sorry” isn’t said, and a husband feels ignored.
None of these issues are insurmountable or even difficult to overcome in and of themselves. But, when thrown into a pile with all of the other unresolved issues, you have a big pile of pain before you know it. You can deal with this pile one incident at a time. It’s possible, but it takes a long time.
The other way is to recognize the power of each moment, no matter how small, and use each moment as an opportunity to bring your marriage closer together. Small kindnesses and gentle words are little knots that hold the whole thing together. Just like small things can add up to big problems, little acts of love add up to a very rich and satisfying marriage.
The truth is, it works both ways. Little things add up, and we get to choose whether they add up to something beautiful or painful.
Developing habits of prayer are essential to the disciple’s life. It looks like this:
1. Find a place and a time, then start showing up there every day. The experts tell us it takes 21 days to fix a habit in place. Show up at the same time and place for 21 days and you’ll develop the holy habit of prayer.
2. What do you do when you get to your place and time of prayer? Focus your mind by reading Scripture. The Psalms are the prayer book of the Bible. It’s a great place to start. If you’re new to reading the Bible, begin with the Gospel of Mark. It’s a quick, easy read and you’ll find out a lot about the ministry of Jesus in a very short time.
3. Pray using the acronym ACTS:
A = adoration C = confession T = thanksgiving S = supplications (praying for what you need)
Remember—every day at the same place and same time. We want to get to the place where we can stop thinking about speaking to Jesus and actually start speaking with Him.
If you miss a day, don’t worry about it. Get back into it as soon as you can. Soon the day will come when you never think about missing it.
Forgiveness is releasing the other person of the expectation they can fix what they did. They can’t. Once hurt, the hurt is yours to deal with. We take our heart to Christ in prayer and find our healing there. Christ is the only source of healing for the soul.
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