As husbands the first move is ours, always ours. It’s not waiting for, if she loved me she would do this, if she loved me she would know, but it’s the ability to take responsibility in taking the first step and that comes out of the overflow of your relationship with Jesus Christ.
Here’s an interview with Adam Wheatley, one of the Kairos Worship Leaders, and newly married.
Last Thursday morning (November 15) I was asked to talk to our Men in Training that meets on Thursday morning at 6:45 AM (courageous souls!) about marriage. In the attached video, I wanted to make 3 main points.
First, God had already placed Adam in the garden to work it and care for it BEFORE He gave Eve to Adam. That means Adam would have understood his role in Eve’s life as that of steward. The role of the steward is to MAXIMIZE THE INVESTMENT OF THE MASTER.
Second, Paul’s instruction concerning marriage in Ephesians 5 places most of the responsibility of the marriage on the husband. If we as husbands can obediently love our wives as Christ loves the church, a lot marital issues will simply evaporate in the celebration of that love.
And lastly, here’s what that means. If you don’t have the wife you want, if she’s not the woman you think she should be, well… maybe it’s our fault. Maybe if we were better stewards our wives would be better wives!
I watch professional poker on TV sometimes. I am notorious for channel checking as I watch TV and every now and then, I’ll stumble upon a poker championship somewhere and I’ll watch. I love being able to know what all of the cards on the table are and watch how these men and women choose to bet — or not — by calculating the odds and watching the other players.
Now, if you talk to the players, playing poker at this level isn’t gambling. It’s math, statistics, psychology and strategy all in one decision to play or not to play. While I respect their skill, I doubt if I could ever convince my hard shell, “Amazing Grace” singing, go-to-church-every time-the-doors-are-open Southern Baptist mom that poker is not gambling.